RESPECT
There was once a time when a woman wanted to be treated like a woman and not like a broad, bitch, or slut. The new generation of woman though doesn’t care about respect or status they are more worried about appealing to the opposite sex and how they respond to them. Women no longer care if they appear loose or easy, they are only worried about snatching a man with deep pockets.
These women also are searching to marry above their status or at least in the lifestyle in which they are accustomed to. They don’t care if it is a drug dealer or a NBA player who has just been drafted, as long as they have access to t heir money. These women will down play their upbringing and their pedigree to fit in with these types of men lifestyle. As women we usually take a back seat to our men and let them shine, but in the new world order women are running the household and still working. Women are fighting other women over men in public and also in their private homes.
The internet hasn’t helped this aspect of relationships, if anything it has made relationships harder to manage. Social networks have made some women believe in relationships that didn’t exist and they have also broken up homes because it allows for millions of people to become involved in relationships that they are not part of. Men have also failed to keep up their role as a man. Not just a man in a relationship, but as a man who stands for something besides the size of his bank account or the size of the appendage in his pants.
Women are pushing good men out of the household in order to keep up with their friends and what they consider is a good enough man for them. When did paying the bills, loving another person, providing those needs which no one else can fulfill for a person become not enough. A man or woman who has a good relationship that has the potential to become a gr eat relationship will not put in the extra work because society has shown them that the old ways are outdated. There are less couples getting married today and more children growing up in broken homes. No one truly understands t he effects of their actions on children who didn’t ask to come into this world. Mothers it is just as much your responsibility as a man, if you don’t want children act responsibly.
Men if you know the woman you are seeing is not the kind of woman you would like to have children with then you should cut your ties and not lead her on like a real m an would or at least act responsibility. For if no one respects themselves how can they expect anyone else to show them any respect. Black men and women the same way the communities come together when there is a clear threat formed against it, that same love should be shown everyday where you live because those are your neighborhoods. You can’t com- plain about what is being taken from you if you are giving it away.
We can’t depend on only our NBA or NFL stars to come back to the old neighborhoods and give back, we need those who are there every day to show the youth in our neighborhoods there are positive black men and women. Children learn to respect four places; home, school, church, and the streets, you have to control what your child is taking in. I believe the old saying “it takes a village to raise children,” but you want to make sure it ’s the right village. Those single parent homes need the extra help, but without all the judgment that government resources usually enforce on them. Little girl s need to be taught that they are precious and not just a plaything for boys.
Little girls are dreaming of snatching up the richest man they can find and they don’t care who or what they have to step on to get there. Society is showing them that this acceptable with the numerous television shows and the need for material things. We need to stop letting television and the internet raise our children. Something’s are not meant for everyone and we need to put our foot down and take more control over what our children see. Times have changed but to throw away everything from the past would be a cruel injustice. Respect yourself and you will learn to respect others.
HPS Magazine 